Thank you. I can tell from that greeting that you must know that I’m planning to speak for at least thirty minutes.
In all seriousness, this is about all of you out there waiting to get an important piece of paper and go to a great party, and certainly not about me. In fact, as I was getting ready tonight, I was hoping that I’d look like a young Professor Dumbledore, but, as I can see that you are gazing at me with horror (or boredom), I know that I’m much more Dementor than Dumbledore. So, to avoid the Patronus charm, I'll keep it short.
I'm simply going to share two pieces of wisdom that I received from, in all honesty, the most important men in my life, my grandfather and my mentor teacher. My grandpa, who passed away this winter at 90 years old, whenever he saw me, asked when I was going to get my PhD and become a literature professor or become a high school administrator (no joke). He always wanted me to push, to demand more of myself, to demand more from my place in space. I would tell him that teaching high school students is my vocation, my calling, but his message was clear: don't ever be too content.
As I've had the opportunity to work with many of you, you know that I've tried to impart that message to you. I've asked you to demand more of your educations, more of this place, and, in many ways, by pushing against traditions, you've created real change. For all those who have refused to be content with the status quo, the norm, the safe, I'm very proud of you.
Tonight, I hope that you have a vision for the type of life that you'd like, a vision for how you'll impact your universes, and I hope that you'll continue to demand more, to need your worlds to be better.
I now know that my grandfather feared, above all else, the still, the stagnant; that’s why he was always pushing me to do something new. While there are many still, stagnant, poisoned pools in this world, you don't need to stop and drink from them. Seek out the new, the clean, the nourishing in your lives. Or, better yet, when you find stagnant pools, clean them up and bring them back to life.
Then there was my master teacher, a big fan of George Orwell, who liked to say, "Struggle is Strength." When I was learning to teach, he would often grumble those words just above a whisper, "Struggle is Strength." Too often, my response would be to throw papers around his office and long for something easier. My friends were all working for dot coms in San Francisco and making lots of money doing, as they put it, nothing, while I was laboring to teach people to effectively think. I like to think that my struggles to do what I needed to do have resulted in a personal strength, a strength of purpose and conviction.
I see that strength, one that I didn't even begin to possess until my mid-20's, in many of you sitting here this evening, and I so much admire you for being the compassionate and powerful people you are.
It's now been fifteen years since those initial meetings in the back office with Ed, my master teacher, and that whisper, "Struggle is Strength" is still in the back of my mind, but today I prefer Beat Poet and Reed College alumnus Gary Snyder's riff on the same theme: "All true paths lead through mountains." I have it etched on every Apple product I buy (and I buy as many as I can), and it's my email signature, and I'm sharing it with you today to let you know that it's ok for things to be hard.
We as human beings grow when we struggle, when we experience tension, when we strain. Remember that, as I too often do, when considering the things that really matter, maybe your jobs, maybe your politics, but most certainly your relationships with those whom you love. It's ok for things to be hard.
I wish you lives filled with love, peace & happiness.
Congratulations-thank you for letting me share part of this evening and these four years of your lives with you.
